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In our busy lives as married couples, one of the most important areas not to neglect is our communication. The more we talk to each other, the more we will know about each other.This will help us respond to our spouse’s needs, wants and desires. In your marriage, don’t take your spouse for granted. Learn to ask important questions throughout every stage. Here are 25 questions to get you started:
- How am I doing as a husband/wife in general?
- What are you most excited about in our relationship during this season?
- If you could see two things change about me what would they be?
- What ways can I honor you more?
- What are your biggest fears about our relationship?
- As a husband/wife, how can I show more love/sensitivity to you?
- Are you dealing with anything that I can help you with currently?
- How can we improve our intimacy or take it to the next level?
- What’s your dream datenight or weekend with me?
- If you had three wishes to wish for our future, what would they be?
- What are a few ways I need to be more understanding?
- What are a few ways you desire to see our finances improve?
- What are three places within 200 miles that you would like to spend a few days?
- What strengths do I bring to our relationship?
- What ways can I improve as a husband/wife?
- What’s your top three favorite love songs and why?
- Do you feel more emotionally connected than we did early in our relationship?
- What are two things we forgot to celebrate this year?
- What were some things we used to do before we were married that you miss now?
- What do I need to know most about you right now?
- Is your love for me growing stronger?
- What have you learned to appreciate about me that you did not know when we were first married?
- Are you satisfied with the amount of time we spend together?
- Do I tell you I love you enough?
- What ways can we building our friendship more?
**There are tons of other questions we could have listed. What other questions can you come up with to help others?
kugihandson July 10, 2020 at 9:19 AM
More question about old marriage couple
Alisonon June 25, 2021 at 2:06 AM
not sure why you think that….they all seem like timeless questions relevant to any couple. Even Q 17 could have a short timeframe.
LE DAVISon June 25, 2021 at 12:20 AM
I can’t compete with his computer. He’s almost 80 & spends 10 to 12 hours a day in front of his screen. His dog of 11 years is my best friend, companion & confidant. He is totally disengaged in our home life, we have no social life together. Mentally he is sharp, socially..no outside interests at all. I’m active, play golf, socialize with the neighbors, stay on top with the news, do 100% of the driving, do 90% of the cooking, all the housework, but I don’t do the mowing of our yard any more. So we pay to have it done. Oh! And I provide 75 % of the income. He is very smart & can be personable when necessary. I’ve run out of ways to engage his participation in this marriage. He he more intelligent than me? yes, but….I’m smarter in many ways that I didn’t learn in a book. I long to be a widow. But, I’m afraid he will be a widower first.
Rocket Rushon January 15, 2023 at 9:31 PM
Take the dog on a little vacation and cancel your internet for that time. You just need to get his total attention and explain your needs. Life is too short. At least you have the companionship of a loving dog!
Alisonon June 25, 2021 at 2:03 AM
Have you told him what you have shared with us? Does he realise how his excessive screen time makes you feel? Can you gently confront him with what he has become? Can you ask him out on a date of something he used to enjoy doing?
Joannaon August 13, 2021 at 6:25 PM
Honestly, ur husband sounds like the man of my dreams. I’m so exhausted with my husband trying to drag me out the house. I end up on my computer so he can stop talking about the outside world. I wish we could sit indoors with the dog and talk about us, not his best friend’s new car etc.
Jonathanon August 10, 2022 at 4:04 AM
God you sound like my dream… my wife is always trying to go somewhere and do some thing and has trouble sitting with her self she’s not a big TV person and it’s impossible to have a conversation with her she has no interest in communicating or talking about our relationship whether it be past present or future.. i’m finding that we have grown apart and want different things in almost every aspect of life never mind the fact that we have no intimate relationship whatsoever and have not had one for at least a year and a half if not longer… I have no desire to live the life that her friends live and she’s never satisfied with what we have it’s always about more and more and more and constantly worries about what others think I am more focused on enjoying what I have now in living every day in the present moment but I’m also aware of what it takes to be able to make a future and I cannot see our future and could never imagine us having one with the way our relationship is now. She’s been the way she is for the last seven years I think I just was scared to see it at first but it has been latent and a glaring issue for the last three years and there’s nothing I can do I have a three-year-old son but I refuse to be in this toxic relationship any longer I don’t know what else to do but just pack my stuff and go … I just know she can’t do it alone so I’m almost certainly going to watch her fail and that means my son will suffer but I am miserable and going to end up relapsing on drugs if I let it continue
verboselysuccincton August 27, 2021 at 11:39 AM
Wishing for your husband’s death? Jesus Christ! No wonder he spends all his time in front of the computer. He’s almost 80, so he’s probably wanting a break, but I would assume that he also longs for his own death. But, good for you for keeping score with everything you do and everything he doesn’t do, I’m sure that helps the relationship.
Kendraon September 18, 2021 at 8:35 AM
I don’t feel like these are for old married couples. I suggested this to our married group of friends for us to do, and as I was reading them I thought they seem more for newlyweds but the more I read I thought these are good for anyone. And I’m not an old married lady . My husband and I have been together almost 12 years “ straight” and married for 4 im 32 he’s 34 and we have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old boy and another beautiful 9 week old baby boy. So we’re not old and I feel like these are great questions to ask each other. If someone feels like they maybe “ to old” you don’t have to use them.
Amiton September 21, 2021 at 3:37 PM
I liked this article and Good collection of questions .
jbeee (@queenjessebel)on September 30, 2021 at 11:38 AM
Spot on!
Marianna Murray-Smithon January 9, 2022 at 10:02 AM
I found this article because I am longing to find better ways to connect with me husband on an more intimate level. We have been together for 10 years married for 4 years. He’s 29 and I’m 31. My husband is very sexually but lacks in affection and intimacy. No very romantic at all and I long for all of those things. He’s very loving and caring but just not giving me what I need as far as the deep intimacy and I have run out of ways to tell him I feel like he just doesn’t get it…I also feel like it’s beginning to effect our relationship and the way we are towards one another and the way we communicate I’m really sad
Jonathanon August 10, 2022 at 4:13 AM
Sounds like my wife… Well not really she’s not sexual at all but even worse she’s not intimate or loving I feel like I’m just a roommate at this point she treats me like a stranger we haven’t been intimate in over a year and I feel like that is just a slap in the face sign that it’s long overdue to end this marriage we’ve been together for seven years married for four and I’ve been miserable… I’m always complementing her trying to boost her up and she’s always putting me down, she’s always pointing out negative things and has never given me a compliment in the last four years it’s a constant comparison and she refuses to except even the simplest responsibility as a human. I mean this woman has trouble even admitting a simple mistake like a spot while washing dishes…it’s torture and it’s affecting my three year old now I need out ASAP…
And she’ll do what she always does when I take a couple of days and go to my dad’s house she’ll say that I’m abandoning my family but if I stay and we continue to argue and make it toxic doesn’t make sense how could you criticize somebody for making sure separate themselves before something bad happens or to make sure that our son doesn’t hear it that’s how selfish and cynical she is
Reneon January 28, 2022 at 2:15 AM
I feel sorry for you, bc that’s me right now and I’m only 34 and I want out.
johnon March 5, 2022 at 6:24 PM
Define sex and your ideal sex life to your partner also tell him about your feelings and desire
Danielon April 6, 2022 at 11:01 AM
How does that actually make you feel? I think you need a big time to yourself and then try to know if he can fix things
Susanon April 12, 2022 at 10:18 PM
What does he do with the computer? Surfing? Research? Seems like you have detached life with him
Curtis Silvernailon May 1, 2022 at 9:52 PM
Hello Joanna, I would love to be friends with you, if you don’t mind?
Slyon June 22, 2022 at 10:03 AM
Is having oral sex wrong in a marriage
